My son hasn't spoken to me in over a year. Yesterday was his 29th birthday and I sent him an e-mail wishing him a happy birthday and there was no reply. I try to tell myself it does not hurt but the fact of the matter is it does. I have thought about writing him a longer e-mail but I am afraid I will just get snubbed once again. You might be wondering why he does not want anything to do with me. It basically boils down to the fact that I moved to Texas and he did not agree with that decision. He went so far as to tell me the last time I spoke to him that I was crazy.
He freely admits that he would never allow anyone to tell him how to live, or where to live for that matter. Yet feels he has the right to tell me and thinks I am crazy because I don't obey him. Now there is some seriously flawed logic for you there. He judges my life, and my friends though he has never met any of them, and has no clue how I live my life here.
He has two young daughters and I really wonder if when they are his age if he will allow them to dictate to him the way he tries to do to me? I seriously doubt it.I am still very torn if I should try again to communicate with him, or to let it be.
Oh man. This is one of my BIGGEST fears! I have 2 teenage kids that I have done everything in my power to give a more than great life to. Now that they are teenagers, of COURSE they do not agree with a couple of things I have wanted in life. I gave one of those things (a long-term relationship) to "make them happy."
ReplyDeleteI have now made my 2nd life change/decision in the 16 & 14 yrs they've been alive and guess what? Yup! My son is NOT HAPPY. This time I stood my ground and I'm doing what I want that is going to make me happy.
Hell, the kid is almost an adult. He can deal with it, AND I KNOW that he would NOT like it if I told him how to live his life as an adult.
Kudos to you! I hope you have been living a happy life in Texas!! Hopefully these two boys (and numerous other children out there) will realize that some of the decisions we have made in our lives were not so bad after all.